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Do You Want To Grow ? Ask The Right Questions And Use Feedback As A Stepping Stone

The Most Valuable Question You Can Ask - by Jack Canfield

As you begin to take action toward the fulfillment of your goals and dreams, you must realize that not every action will be perfect.

Not every action will produce the desired result. Not every action will work.

Making mistakes, getting it almost right, and experimenting to see what happens are all part of the process of eventually getting it right.

Thomas Edison is reported to have tried over 2,000 different experiments that failed before he finally got the light bulb to work. He once told a reporter that, from his perspective, he had never failed at all. Inventing the light bulb was just a 2,000-step process. If you can adopt that attitude, then you can be free to take an action, notice what result you get, and then adjust your next actions based on the feedback you have received.

Ready, Fire, Aim!

Don't be afraid to just jump in and get started moving toward your goals. As long as you pay attention to the feedback you receive, you will make progress. Just getting into the game and firing allows you to correct and refine your aim.

The Most Valuable Question You May Ever Learn

In the 1980s, a multimillionaire businessman taught me a question that radically changed the quality of my life. So what is this magical question that can improve the quality of every relationship you are in, every product you produce, every service you deliver, every meeting you conduct, every class you teach and every transaction you enter into?

Here it is:

"On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate the quality of our relationship during the last week?"

Here are a number of variations on the same question that have served me well over the years...

"On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate...

• our service? · my teaching?
• our product? · this class/seminar/workshop?
• this meeting? · our date/vacation?
• our performance? · this meal?
• my coaching/managing? · this book/recording/show?
• my parenting/babysitting?

Any answer less than a 10 always gets this follow-up question:

"What would it take to make it a 10?"

This is where the *really* valuable information comes from. Knowing that a person is dissatisfied is not enough. Knowing in detail what will satisfy them gives you the information you need to do whatever it takes to create a winning product, service or relationship.

There Are Two Kinds of Feedback

There are two kinds of feedback you might encounter - negative and positive. We tend to prefer the positive - that is, results, money, praise, promotion, raise, awards, happiness, inner-peace, etc. It feels betters. It tells us we are on course and doing the right thing.

We tend not to like negative feedback - lack of results, little or no money, criticism, poor evaluations, complaints, unhappiness, inner conflict, pain, etc.

However, there is as much useful data in negative feedback as there is in positive feedback. It tells us that we are off course, headed in the wrong direction, doing the wrong thing. This is priceless information!

In fact, it's so valuable that one of the most useful projects you could undertake is to change how you respond to negative feedback. I like to refer to negative feedback as information for "improvement opportunities." Here is a place where I can get better.

Ask Yourself for Feedback

In addition to asking others for feedback, you need to ask yourself for feedback, too. More than any other source of feedback, your body will tell you whether or not you are on course or not. When you are relaxed and happy, your body is telling you that you are on track. When you are constantly exhausted, tense, in pain, unhappy and angry, then you are off track.

Take time to listen to what your body is saying to you. Take time to listen to your physical sensations and your feelings. They are sending you important messages. Are you listening?

Remember, Feedback Is Simply Information

You don't have to take it personally. Just welcome it and use it.

For more on Using Feedback to Your Advantage, review Principle #19 in The Success Principles. It's one of the most important principles you can apply.

© 2008 Jack Canfield

Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com

Stress Busters - 10 Ways to Manage Stress

Are you stressed out to the max? Do you need help managing your stress? According to a survey conducted by the American Institute of Stress, 54% of Americans are concerned about the level of stress in their everyday lives. Are you among these?

The best way to bust stress before it gets out of control is to manage it properly. Here are the top ten ways you can manage stress, starting now:

1. Breathe – One of the easiest and best ways to manage your stress is to take control of your breathing. When your anxiety levels rise, you may notice your breathing increasing. You might start taking fast, shallow breaths. Close your eyes, inhale deeply, and then exhale slowly while counting to ten.
2. Exercise – Any form of exercise is conducive to stress management. Creating a regularly scheduled exercise routine can not only help you work tension out of your body, but can help to eliminate unnecessary stress as well.
3. Guided imagery and meditation – Guided meditation is often perceived as “weird.” However, it is one of the easiest ways you can relax. These CDs contain a person who assists you in meditating by providing you with guided imagery. (It is usually about a 10-20 minute track.)
4. Laugh – It has been said that laughter is the best medicine—and it’s true! Research proves that laughter is especially good for the heart. Researchers at the University of Maryland School of Medicine say that laughter contributes to an increase of blood flow to. See a funny movie, buy a book of jokes—LAUGH.
5. Take a break – When was the last time you went on vacation? Everybody needs a break every now and then. Plan a nice getaway with your spouse or family. Leave work at work. Get out and have some fun, relax and reduce your stress levels.
6. Manage your time wisely – One of the biggest causes of stress is poor time management. Do you often feel as though there aren’t enough hours in the day to do everything you need to do? Do you run from one appointment to another, sometimes even arriving late? Planning and managing your time in a more wisely manner can greatly reduce a lot of stress.
7. Loosen up – Are you uptight? Do you take little time off for fun? While your time should be managed, stress can be caused by living a life that is too strictly controlled. If you find it difficult to have fun anymore, try loosening up the reigns just a bit. Take a day off; go for a stroll in the park; buy a flower and give it to a stranger.
8. Journal – Journaling is nothing new, but not many people take advantage of the positive benefits journaling can have. Journaling is a good way to get things off your chest without exploding at those at you love. It helps you to put things in their proper perspective and discover things you didn’t recognize about yourself before.
9. Take a daily vitamin – If you don’t already take a vitamin, start today. Purchase a bottle of multi-vitamins and begin the habit of taking good care of your body today. Doctors often suggest that both men and women benefit most from a pre-natal vitamin because these are power-packed with all the nutrients your body needs.
10. Start a hobby – Do you have a hobby? All work and no play makes Johnny a dull boy. Try something that you’ve always wanted to but never made the time for—golfing, knitting, swimming, reading.

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Why Do You Do What You Do?

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 Tony Robbins on Why do you do what you do?

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http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/tony_robbins_asks_why_we_do_what_we_do.html

 

What Are You Tolerating?

What are you putting up with? If you are tolerating things that are draining your energy, stop!

What are you always thinking about? What's always at the back of your mind? Things that often enter your thoughts are often things that you're putting up with.

Make a list of all the things you're tolerating and then work on eliminating them one at a time.

You could eliminatre them by:

• actually doing it
• delegating it
• influencing it in some way
• or getting over it!

You'll be amazed at how much energy you reclaim when you stop putting up with things. Try it!

Choices - How To Choose To Create The Life That's Right For You

You can create the life that you want to have. It's just a matter of consistently making choices that will take you closer to your ideal life. I love Dan Goodwin's articles. He writes from an artists perspective yet the principles he shares can be applied to every area of your life. ..

Creativity isn't just about writing stories, painting pictures, compsing music and all of the other recognised creative acts from cooking to architecture and film making to video game design.

The biggest creative project of your life IS your life.

Build Your Confidence - 7 Easy Tips To Build Confidence

Everybody suffers from lack of confidence at some time. Having a set of simple exercises to use during these times is an invaluable aid to boosting your confidence and getting back on track as quickly as possible. 

7 things you can do to build your confidence

Are You Your Worst Enemy Or Are You Your Own Best Friend?

Are you subconsciously self destructive?

Do you ever stop to question whether or not you might be be your own worst enemy?

There is a constant stream of internal chatter running though your mind. Is your self talk helpful, or does it drag you down?

You have countless different thoughts going through your mind. They are like a flock of flying words gliding aimlessly around in your head. Have you ever stopped to listen to what you are telling yourself?

• "I'm so fat"
• "I can't do this"
• "My parents were right, I never will amount to anything."

Maybe you cheer other people on and tell them, "You can do it", "I believe in you", but when it comes to your turn, you tell yourself things like, "I can't" or "I feel silly" or "how am I ever....." 

Successful Goal Setting - How To Set Effective Goals

Goal setting is a powerful tool to help you make your dreams a reality

Tips for successful goal setting

Be decisive

Make a decision to pursue your goal. Decide what you want and why you want it, and then plan how you will make it happen.

Write your goal down

When you write your goal down it focuses your attention. When you write your goal in detail, it helps you to clarify your goal and gives your subconscious a set of instructions to work with.

Define your destination clearly

Once you know exactly where you're headed, it's easier to get there. When you have a clear destination you'll be able to point yourself in the right direction and it will be easier to see when you're getting off course and need to get back on track. 

Why You Need To Overcome Anger - How To Avoid Arguments

You can't afford to be angry. Anger drains emotional energy, plays havoc with your body and destroys your relationships. It simply isn't good for you or for the people around you.

Anger leads to arguments and arguments cause resentment and can be very hard to recover from. People are often willing to make allowances or even forgive you, but they find it hard to forget.

The wrong words or even the right words spoken at the wrong time or harshly, can cause a lot of difficulties. And the more you continue to say the wrong things in the wrong way, the bigger the trouble you will find yourself in.

Your Signature Speech – Public Speaking - A Powerful Way To Market Your Business

What is a signature speech?

A Signature Speech is a persuasive presentation aimed at marketing your expertise or products to a live or virtual audience filled with your ideal target market.

Why do I need a signature speech?

A signature speech is a powerful tool for small business owners because it is a cost effective way of connecting with your target market. Public speaking is an effective way of get more leads, signing up more clients, and getting more cash flow quickly and efficiently.